“How to win friends and influence people” by Dale Carnegie is a book that has worked wonders with many people.   His book contains many techniques that can help you build the fundamental skills to winning friends and influencing people.  Some of them I will be able to make into habits fairly easily, but others will come as more of a challenge.  I believe that the hardest one of these techniques (so far) for me to learn to do well, is probably the most important.

My biggest weakness is the lack of ability to see things from the other person’s point of view.  I get easily frustrated and get angry at them, I do not take time to consider their viewpoint and negotiate.  After learning this technique, I realized how important it is to be able to see things from the other person’s point of view.  So what is the issue?  This technique is much easier said than done.  It is a simple principle, but putting it to action is not so simple.  It will take time and effort for me to train myself, and make the habit of seeing things from the other person’s point of view.

Many people have problems putting themselves in the other person’s shoes.  But this technique is almost essential for success.  More often than not, my temper gets the best of me and I explode.  This is counter productive.   Now that I know the importance of seeing things from the other person’s point of view, I must find and take the steps to breaking my aggressive habits.

To achieve success, you must know how to handle people effectively.  Dale Carnegie offers proven ways to win people to your way of thinking.  I am willing to put in many hours of  work to master these principles.